Life’s Greatest Lesson Takes Time

In Philippians 2:4 it says, “Look out for one another's interests, not just for your own.” (GNT)

Selflessness brings out the best in others. It builds relationships. What does it mean to be selfless? It means you think a little less of yourself and a little more of others. 

The opposite of selflessness is selfishness—and it’s the number one cause of conflict and arguments. The Bible says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have” (James 4:1-2 NIV).

Self-centeredness destroys relationships.

The problem is, being selfish is human nature. We naturally think about our own interests, our hurts, how we look, and how we feel. Even culture tells us, “Do what you think is best for you.” But God’s Word says, “Look out for one another’s interests, not just for your own” (Philippians 2:4 GNT).

What happens when I look out for others’ interests and not just my own? Not only will it transform relationships, but it will also transform other people. It causes the other person to change, because I’m not the same person anymore, allowing them to relate to me in a different way. 

When I can treat cranky, unlikable people with kindness, instead of treating them the way they deserve, they often transform into nice people.

The greatest lesson in life is learning to be unselfish—but it won’t happen overnight. It’s going to take the rest of my life. 

The good news is, God doesn’t leave me all alone to learn how to be selfless. Romans 8:26 says, “The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness” (NLT).

I should never stop making the effort to be more selfless. God’s Spirit is within me to help me break the cycle of selfishness! When I do, I will see transformation in all my relationships.

Paul encourages me to guard against any selfishness, prejudice, or jealousy that might lead to dissension. Showing genuine interest in others is a positive step forward in maintaining unity. Jesus was humble, willing to give up his rights in order to obey God and serve people. Like Christ, I too should have a servant's attitude, serving out of love for God and for others, and not out of guilt or fear. I can choose my attitude. I can approach life expecting to be served or I can look for opportunities to serve others.