Learning To Be My Wife’s Biggest Fan

In review of Hebrews 3:13 it says, “Encourage each other every day while it is ‘today.’”

Bottom Line:

Encourage each other daily, while it is today, so that we won’t get deceived by sin and hardened against God.

What this means to me:

I am to encourage others every day, as we can be deceived easily by sin. Sin can blind us and end up causing us to be stubborn and hardened against God.

This morning I am reminded that God has given me an incredibly important role in my marriage. I am to be my wife’s biggest fan. It’s a job only I can do, in a way that God desires. Unfortunately, we live in a world full of critics. I don’t need to look very far to find someone who will want to put us down.

For this reason, everyone needs to be affirmed by someone else on a regular basis. It’s how God wired us. So in order to grow my marriage, it's important for me to affirm my wife as well. The Bible says in Hebrews 3:13, “Encourage each other every day while it is ‘today’” (NCV).

First I need to affirm her value. When dealing with houses, the word “appreciate” means to rise in value. So likewise, I can raise the value of other people including her when I show appreciation for them. As I openly appreciate my wife and place value on her, I ultimately raise the value of my marriage. Proverbs 12:25 says, “A word of encouragement does wonders” (LB). So a word of encouragement will do wonders for my marriage, or for any other relationship I have.

Next I need to affirm her strengths. I can bring out the best in her when I specifically point out her best, and not her worst. I can choose to be a dream builder, not a dream buster. We ultimately become what other people see in us.

Lastly, I need to affirm her ministry. I need to let her know how much I appreciate what she does for God’s sake in the world. I can cheer her on as she makes contributions. Help her see the impact being made for Jesus’ sake. If I can do this, it will help the health of my marriage.