Anger Will Yield Anger, Wisdom Will Yield Patience

In review of Proverbs 19:11 it says, “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”

Bottom Line:

A sensible persons wisdom will help them control their temper and practice patience. You earn respect and gain virtue by overlooking an offense

What this means to me:

Wisdom will help me take a more sensible path toward my temper, allowing me to be much more patient. Doing so will ultimately help me be an example and respected by others.

It’s not surprising, “hurt people”, will hurt people. What I need to keep in mind is that, when someone hurts me, it’s because they’ve been hurt. Unkind people have never felt kindness. Unloving people feel unloved. When someone is rude, bitter, unkind, sarcastic, mean spirited, or arrogant, they are shouting with all of their behaviors, “I am in pain! I need massive doses of love! I do not feel secure!”

On the other hand, a person who feels deeply loved and deeply secure is generous and gracious to other people.

In the long run, getting even with others, really makes me no better than they are. The Bible instructs me to overcome evil with good. This means, I am to respond with love. I am to look past their words to their pain.

Here’s a myth that everyone believes: When it comes to anger, there’s only a set amount and when the bucket gets full, it needs to be let out. From what I can see, the problem is, we all have more than a bucket of anger. It’s more like a factory, and this factory keeps on producing and producing and producing.

As I get rid of it I just produce more. What I’m learning is that the more anger I throw out, the more it reproduces (aggression only creates more aggression.) Angry outbursts only lead to more anger, more often. It can become a habitual pattern If I’m not careful.

The answer is not just to throw it out. The answer is to let it go. “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense” (Proverbs 19:11 NIV).

As I face this, one thing will always be in the back of my mind, making it harder to let it go is; I’ve been hurt and I want equal treatment for those who hurt me - It only seems fair. It will be helpful for me to remember how much I have sinned and hurt God, still he doesn’t get even, he forgives and loves me. I need to give others this same consideration that my heavenly father gives me. Overall, if I fill my life with love, the love will certainly overflow from it.