A Man and His Lady - Part 1

This post is about Chapter 7 "A Man and His Lady - Part 1" from "Tender Warrior" by Stu Weber.

We’re just different!

Men	Women
Compartmentalized	Connected
Focused	Comprehensive - especially when it comes to relationships
One thing at a time	Every comes and goes together
What happened earlier in the day has no connection to something later in the day	What happens earlier in the day has everything to do with what happens later in the day
Task oriented	Focus on Relationships
[Part of Being a Provider / Protection]	[Part of Being a Helpmate]

Gen. 2:18
God said, "It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion....”
Helper does not mean inferior  (it’s says more about the one needing help)
Man is incomplete, he needs help
Culture is trying to tell us there is no fundamental differences, they don’t accept it.
“Equality”?
God -> Men and Women are absolutely equal, however equality does not mean sameness.
Man/Women each think differently, view life differently.

Crux of existence for a woman:

• Sense of relationship
• Interconnectedness of people
• Relationship colors every aspect of a woman’s life

Women	Men
Use conversation to expand and understand relationships	Use talk to covey solutions
See People as mutually dependent	See People as self-reliant
Caring	Value Freedom
Acton's within a context, linking one moment to the next	Regard events as isolated

It may be chitchat to a man, but to a woman, it’s lifeblood

How we see life differently:

Women	Men
See’s everything as connected, therefore describes it that way	(A Man’s view of this is “takes forever to get to the point,” “Land the Plane Already”)
Sharing what is on their minds, that what makes it relevant.  We are together, there is no “Big Point”, no decision is required	Just strives to get to the bottom line, cut away non-essential information
Sharing our hearts, that’s enough!

Women will fight isolation

Men	Woman
Tend to be tough and strong	Tender and Gentle
Logic and linear thinking	Emotion and Verbal communication
Risk taker, ready to “Go for it”	Security and Order
Relational Insensitivity	Sensitivity
Look towards the long haul	Concerned about here and now
Skeptical and Suspicious	More believing and trusting
Buffalo	Butterfly
Rough and Calloused	Keen sensitivity to the slightest breeze
Doesn’t react to a breeze	Notices beauty of even the tiniest flower
Not aware of the smallest of flowers	Constantly aware of all the changes going on and around it
Not sensitive to slight changes	Able to react to the slightest variation in the environment
Strength, when harnessed can pull a plow that four men couldn’t pull	Reacts swiftly toward anything that might hurt it
Tend to plow through circumstances	Man “feel” life and her surroundings with much more sensitivity

Based on this, here’s some questions to leave you with:

In chapter 7, Stu spent time talking about how culture doesn’t want to accept (other than physical differences) that Men / Woman are different.  Do you agree/disagree, why?

In Gen. 2:18, “God said, ‘It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion....’”   Do you think your need a helper?  Why/Why not?