Do I Love What God Loves?

“Some of these people have missed the most important thing in life—they don’t know God.” 1 Timothy 6:21 (TLB)

The key to a friendship with God is deciding whose friendship I want most.

I don’t have time for everyone to be my best friend. I've got to decide who I most want to be my closest friend.

The Living Bible paraphrase says, “Some of these people have missed the most important thing in life—they don’t know God” (1 Timothy 6:21).

They know all the baseball scores. They know the stock market quotes. They know the top 10 songs. They know who’s in and who’s out in every TV show. But they don’t know God. They’ve missed the most important thing in life!

If I'm not a friend of God, it means I care about something else more. James 4:4 says, “You should know that loving the world is the same as hating God. Anyone who wants to be a friend of the world becomes God’s enemy” (NCV).

When James writes “loving the world,” he means loving the value system of the world. God wants me to love people, but that doesn’t mean I have to love the world’s value system.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the distractions of life. And when I'm distracted by loving the world’s value system, there’s not much room to love people. Instead, I love materialism. I love pleasure. I love popularity. I love prestige. I love passion, possessions, and position. 

But God loves people. And he wants me to love them too. One way to show my love of others is by taking an interest in their interests. In other words, what is important to others becomes important to me (always within the context of biblical truth).

That’s how I show my love of God too. If I'm going to be a friend of God, then I've got to care about what he cares about and stop caring about the things he doesn’t care about. God doesn’t care about my image. He’s not interested in my status. He’s interested in your character—not how I look but who I am.

If I'm ready to take a practical step toward friendship with God, then choose to value what he values.

In summary:

There is a fundamental tension between worldly preoccupation and a genuine relationship with the Creator, rooted in the warning of 1 Timothy 6:21. It asserts that knowing God is the ultimate human priority, yet many allow their attention to be consumed by ephemeral data—sports scores, market trends, and pop culture—at the expense of spiritual intimacy. Drawing from James 4:4, the message emphasizes that friendship with God requires a decisive rejection of the world's value system, which prioritizes prestige, possessions, and position. True alignment with God involves a shift in focus from external status to internal character and a transition from self-interest to a sincere, sacrificial love for people.

Bottom line:

The depth of mt friendship with God is determined by my willingness to exchange the world’s value system for His eternal priorities.

Next Steps:

Perform a "Value Audit" over the next 48 hours: Identify one specific area where I am currently seeking "status" or "image" (such as social media validation or professional prestige) and intentionally redirect that mental energy toward a character-building discipline or a selfless act of service for someone in your immediate circle.

How to Grow A Relationship with God

“Friendship with God is reserved for those who reverence him. With them alone he shares the secrets of his promises.” Psalm 25:14 (TLB)

If I want to build a deep relationship with God, I have to slow down and be quiet.

Friendship with God is like any other friendship—I have to make time for it. If I don’t make time for my human friends, they’re not really my friends. I make time for my friends. If God is going to be my best friend, I've got to give him my best time.

The Bible says, “Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10 NIV).

To know God better, I need to be still. And a great way to be still with God is by having a daily quiet time with him.

The Living Bible paraphrase says, “Friendship with God is reserved for those who reverence him. With them alone he shares the secrets of his promises” (Psalm 25:14).

Many people don’t know God. They haven’t experienced his love. They don’t know why he does what he does. Yet the Bible says that friendship with God is reserved for those who reverence him—in other words, those who slow down and spend time with him.

What would a friendship be like if I never invested my time in it? Friendships need attention. I will never know God intimately if I only go to church services.

I've got to read God’s Word and ask him, “God, is there anything you want to say to me?” I don’t have to use any fancy phrases or words. Just talk to him authentically. And then listen!

The Message paraphrase says it like this: “When you come before God, don’t turn that into a theatrical production. . . . Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace” (Matthew 6:5-6).

Slow down today, focus on God, and listen as he speaks to me about his grace. 

In summary:

Psalm 25:14 emphasizes that intimacy with the God is not a universal experience by default, but a "reserved" privilege for those who approach Him with reverence and intentionality. True friendship with God mimics the mechanics of human relationship: it requires the sacrifice of time, the elimination of performance-based "role-playing," and a commitment to stillness. By prioritizing a daily quiet time and engaging in authentic, two-way communication—speaking honestly and listening for His response—the believer moves beyond religious observation into a space where God reveals the "secrets of His promises" and the depth of His grace.

Bottom Line:

Deep intimacy with God is the direct result of intentional stillness and the consistent investment of your best time.

Next steps:

Dedicate 15 minutes to a "no-performance" session. Use this time to read a single verse and then sit in silence with a notebook, asking God one simple question: "What do I need to hear from You today?" Resist the urge to use formal religious language; speak and listen as you would with a trusted friend.

 

Making God My Priority

“Everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ.” Philippians 3:8 (NLT)

I'm never going to become a friend of God in my spare time. To become his friend, I have to make knowing him my number one priority.

Paul says it like this: “Everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ” (Philippians 3:8 NLT).

So am I seeking God with all my heart each day?

Remember: I'm as close to God as I choose to be. Becoming a friend of God starts when I decide that’s what I want.

If I feel far from God, think about who moved. It wasn’t God. And I can’t blame anyone else, not my spouse, my parents, or my grandsons. It’s simply that I didn’t make him my number one priority.

Knowing and loving God is humanity’s greatest privilege. And being known and being loved by God is my greatest pleasure.

You can tell what’s important to people by what they brag about. If their kids are most important, they brag about their kids. If their job is the most important thing in their life, they brag about their job. If travel and having experiences are most important, that’s what they talk about. If partying or buying new clothes is what you talk about most, guess what you value most? I will brag about what I value most.

God says in Jeremiah 9:23-24, “The wise should not boast of their wisdom, nor the strong of their strength, nor the rich of their wealth. If any want to boast, they should boast that they know and understand me” (GNT).

Knowing God is what matters most—it’s what life is all about. The God of the universe loves me and wants to have a relationship with me.  And getting close to him will give me peace and perspective. That’s good news!

In summary:

There is an absolute necessity to prioritizw a relationship with God over all earthly achievements and distractions. Drawing from the Apostle Paul’s radical shift in Philippians 3:8, spiritual intimacy is never an accidental byproduct of "spare time" but a deliberate result of counting all other gains as "garbage" by comparison. It emphasizes human agency in the spiritual life, asserting that my proximity to God is a direct reflection of my personal choices and values. By auditing what I "boast" about—whether it be family, career, or wealth—I can uncover my true priorities, eventually aligning with the Jeremiah 9 mandate that my only valid boast is the understanding and knowledge of the Creator.

Bottom Line:

My proximity to God is not determined by His distance from me, but by my daily decision to value Him above every other pursuit.

Next Steps:

Conduct a "Conversation Audit" over the next 48 hours. Carefully observe the topics I brag about or discuss with the most enthusiasm. If my speech highlights temporary achievements—such as career wins or material acquisitions—more than my walk with Christ, intentionally dedicate the first 20 minutes of my time to "discard" those distractions through prayer and scripture, re-centering my identity on being known by Him.

Fearless Connection: Shifting Focus from Self to Service

“Love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid . . . this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” 1 John 4:18 (NLT)

Are my relationships characterized by freedom or by fear?

If I'm like most people, I find myself in a dilemma: I long to be close to other people, but I also fear being close. I want the freedom of intimacy with others, but I'm also scared to death of it.

Fear often causes a battle for control in relationships. When I'm afraid, I'm insecure. And insecurity makes me try to control others—and resist efforts to be controlled! As a result, I can’t get close to other people because I'm just battling back and forth for control. So insecurity prevents intimacy and destroys my relationships.

If insecurity destroys relationships, then what builds them? Love!

The Bible says in 1 John 4:18, “Love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid . . . this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love” (NLT).

Love expels fear by taking the focus off of me and putting it on others. 

So take the focus off of myself and focus on the people in front of me instead. If I stay there thinking about what they thought of the way I look or my way of speaking, I become afraid. But the minute I start thinking about how much I love the people I’m with, the fear leaves.

This would be the same in any relationship. Focusing on the other person gives me the power to throw fear out of my life.

How do you find that power to focus on others? I start by realizing how much God loves me. The moment I begin to understand how much God loves me, I don’t have to prove myself anymore. Because I'm secure in God’s love, I don’t have to spend my life trying to impress others.

When I'm secure in my relationship with Christ, I'm no longer pressured by everyone else’s expectations. My identity and self-worth are in Christ—not in what others might think of me.

God’s love frees me to love others fearlessly.

In summary:

Using 1 John 4:18 as its foundation there is a psychological and spiritual tension between the desire for intimacy and the fear of vulnerability. It identifies insecurity as the primary culprit behind relational breakdown, noting that fear naturally triggers a defensive drive for control, which ultimately stifles closeness. The solution is not a self-generated effort to be "braver," but rather a profound immersion in God's "perfect love." By anchoring one’s identity and self-worth in Christ’s unconditional acceptance, the internal pressure to perform or protect the ego is removed, liberating the individual to focus outward on others and engage in relationships from a position of security rather than fear.

Bottom Line:

When we are anchored in God's unconditional love, we lose the need to control others and gain the freedom to truly connect with them.

Next Step:

Identify one specific relationship or group where I currently feel a need to "perform" or manage my image. Practice "Identity Re-centering" before my next interaction with them: Spend five minutes reflecting on God's complete acceptance of me, then consciously enter the conversation with the single goal of listening to and valuing them, rather than being valued by them.

Availability Over Ability

“For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” 2 Chronicles 16:9 (NIV)

Most people get to watch history; very few choose to make it.

I can be a history-maker.

A thousand years before I was born, God knew I'd be right where I am today. He knew I'd be reading this devotional. It’s because God has something special, something unique in store for me.

I'm not sitting where I'm sitting by accident. I haven’t had the experiences in my life by chance. God designed my life to make a difference in the world.

No matter where I've been, what I'm afraid of, or what sin is in my rear-view mirror, God can still use me to make a difference in this world. What he needs from me is a total commitment to him. God wants me to be all in on his plan for me.

God is less interested in my ability; he cares about my availability.

God is looking for people like me to change the world.

The Bible says, “For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” 2 Chronicles 16:9 (NIV). God is looking for me—yes, me—so he can strengthen me and use me to make an impact. 

And it all starts with a committed and available heart. Starting today. Let God know that I'm committed to doing whatever he wants with my life. Tell him I'm available for him to use, and then watch how he answers my prayer.

In summary:

The passage centers on 2 Chronicles 16:9, highlighting God’s active search for individuals who are "fully committed" to His purposes. It dismantles the misconception that God only utilizes the exceptionally talented, instead asserting that divine selection is predicated on availability and heart posture rather than innate ability. The text frames human history not as a series of accidents, but as a deliberate design where individual experiences—including past failures—are repurposed for a unique, God-given mission. Ultimately, it serves as a call to move from passive observation to active participation in God's work through a definitive, "all-in" commitment.

Bottom Line:

God is not looking for my extraordinary talent; He is looking for my total availability to be the vessel through which He works.

Next Steps:

Conduct an "Availability Audit" by identifying one specific area of my life (career, finances, or a specific relationship) where I have been holding back control, and consciously surrender that area to God through a prayer of total commitment today.

Humility: The Antidote to Pride

“Be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves.” Philippians 2:3 (NCV)

Pride destroys relationships. It shows up in a lot of different forms, like criticism, competition, stubbornness, and superficiality.

The problem with pride is that it’s self-deceiving. When I have too much pride, I won't see it in my life—but everyone else does!

Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride leads to destruction; a proud attitude brings ruin” (NCV). I love that same verse in The Message paraphrase: “First pride, then the crash—the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.”

While pride destroys relationships, humility serves as its antidote, and relationships are built instead. Philippians 2:3 tells me how to combat pride by choosing humility: “Be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves” (NCV). 1 Peter 3:8 gives more details: “Everyone must live in harmony, be sympathetic, love each other, have compassion, and be humble” (GW).

How do I grow in humility? I let Jesus Christ begin to control my thoughts, heart, attitude, and reactions. Ephesians 4:23-24 says, “Let the Spirit change your way of thinking and make you into a new person” (CEV).           

The basic law of relationships is this: I tend to become like the people I spend time with. If I spend time with grumpy people, I get grumpier. If I spend time with happy people, I get happier.

If I want to become a new, humbler person, I need to spend time with Jesus Christ, because he is humble. By building a relationship with him through prayer and reading his Word, I'll get to know him and become more like him.

Philippians 2:5-6 says it like this: “You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to” (NLT).

Jesus is the ultimate example of humility. He came from heaven to earth to become a man, live for me, give his life for me, and be resurrected for me. When I spend time with him, it makes me humble. That humility, in turn, builds my relationships.

In summary:

This explores the destructive nature of pride—noting its capacity for self-deception and relational breakdown—and positions humility as the essential remedy for a life of harmony. Grounded in the Christ-model described in Philippians 2, the text argues that humility is not a self-generated trait but a byproduct of intentional proximity to Jesus Christ. By shifting focus from self-exaltation to honoring others and allowing the Holy Spirit to renew the mind, an individual moves from the inevitable "crash" of a big ego to the sustainable growth of compassionate, Christ-centered relationships.

Bottom Line:

Relational health is sustained not by the strength of my ego, but by the depth of my humility cultivated through daily fellowship with Jesus Christ.

Next steps:

Identify one specific relationship where I have recently been critical or competitive, and intentionally offer a word of sincere honor or perform an act of service for that person within the next 24 hours to consciously align my attitude with the humility of Christ.

Selflessness Brings Out the Best in Relationships

“The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life.” Galatians 6:7-8 (MSG)

Selfishness destroys relationships. It is the number one cause of conflict, arguments, divorce, and even war.

James 4:1 says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” (NIV). Every trouble starts because of self-centeredness.

It’s very easy for selfishness to enter relationships. When I first start a relationship, I work hard at being unselfish. But as time goes on, selfishness begins to creep in. People often put more energy into starting and building relationships than they do in maintaining them.

If selfishness destroys relationships, then selflessness is what makes them grow. What does selflessness mean? It means less of “me” and more of “you.” It means thinking of others more than I think of myself and putting other people’s needs before my own. As Philippians 2:4 says, “Everyone should look not to his own interests, but rather to the interests of others” (CSB).

Selflessness brings out the best in people. It builds trust in relationships. In fact, if I start acting selflessly in a relationship, the other person changes too; when I'm selfless, I'm not the same person anymore, so they have to relate to me in a different way.

Some of the most unlovable people, those who no one wants to be around, are often transformed when someone is kind and selfless toward them. When someone is given what they need—not what they deserve—they change in beautiful ways.

The Bible says in the Message paraphrase, “The person who plants selfishness, ignoring the needs of others—ignoring God!—harvests a crop of weeds. All he’ll have to show for his life is weeds! But the one who plants in response to God, letting God’s Spirit do the growth work in him, harvests a crop of real life, eternal life” (Galatians 6:7-8).

This is the biblical principle of sowing and reaping. Whatever I sow, I'm going to reap. When I sow selflessness, I reap God’s blessing. This is how he’s wired the universe: The more unselfish I am, the more he blesses me. He wants me to become like him, and he is unselfish. Everything I have is a gift from God, a result of his unselfishness toward me. 

So while here on this earth, I'll be most fulfilled when I give myself away. Jesus said, “If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake and for the sake of the Good News, you will save it” (Mark 8:35 NLT).

In summary:

Selfishness is the silent "weed" that chokes the life out of relationships, serving as the root cause of nearly every conflict and fallout. While it is easy to be generous at the start of a connection, we often drift toward self-centeredness as time passes, neglecting the maintenance required to keep a relationship healthy. However, the biblical principle of sowing and reaping in Galatians 6:7-8 makes the stakes clear: planting seeds of selfishness only yields a life full of "weeds," while planting in response to God’s Spirit produces a harvest of "real life." By choosing selflessness—putting others' needs before our own and giving ourselves away—we not only mirror God’s unselfish character but also create a transformative environment where trust can grow and even the most difficult people can be changed by grace.

Bottom line:

Relationships are a harvest, and I cannot reap intimacy if I'm are only sowing seeds of self-interest.

Next Steps:

Stop "hiding" behind my defensive mask by sharing one small, honest feeling today, then pivot to empathetic listening to bear someone else’s burden without trying to fix it. By sowing these seeds of vulnerability and selflessness, I trade my "weeds" of isolation for a harvest of genuine intimacy.