Slow Growth, Real Change

“We shall become mature people, reaching to the very height of Christ's full stature.” Ephesians 4:13 (GNT)

Discipleship is the process of becoming like Christ. It’s a journey that will last a lifetime!

This is how it works: Every day God wants me to become a little more like him. As the Bible says, “You have begun to live the new life, in which you are being made new and are becoming like the One who made you” (Colossians 3:10 NCV).

Today people are obsessed with speed. But God is more interested in strength and stability than swiftness. I might want the quick fix, the shortcut, the on-the-spot solution. Maybe I'm looking for a sermon, a seminar, or an experience that will instantly resolve all problems, remove all temptation, and release me from all growing pains.

But real maturity is never the result of a single experience, no matter how powerful or moving. Growth is gradual. The Message paraphrase says, “Our lives gradually [become] brighter and more beautiful as God enters our lives and we become like him” (2 Corinthians 3:18).

People often build their identity around their defects. I might even tell myself I can’t change, saying, “It’s just the way I am.”

The unconscious worry is that if I let go of my habit, my hurt, or my hang-up, I won’t know who I am anymore. This fear can slow, or even stop, my growth.

So how do I let go of those old habits and grow to be more like Christ? How do I conform my character to his? By developing Christ-like habits to replace those old habits.

Your character is the sum total of my habits—and habits take time to develop. I can’t claim to be kind unless I am habitually kind, showing kindness without even thinking about it. I can’t claim to have integrity unless it is my habit to always be honest. A husband who is faithful to his wife most of the time is not faithful at all! My habits define my character.

There’s just one way to develop the habits of Christ-like character: I have to practice them, over and over, until they become part of my identity. And that takes time!

But over time, myself—and the people around me—will see the difference. As Paul urged Timothy, “Practice these things. Devote your life to them so that everyone can see your progress” (1 Timothy 4:15 GW).  

In Summary:

Discipleship is the lifelong process of becoming more like Christ, growing daily toward spiritual maturity—not through quick fixes or single powerful experiences, but through steady, intentional transformation over time. God is far more concerned with depth, strength, and stability than speed, gradually renewing us as we let go of old identities rooted in habits, hurts, and fears. True character change happens as Christ-like habits replace old ones, because our habits ultimately define who we are. As I consistently practice qualities like kindness, integrity, and faithfulness, they become part of my identity, and over time both myself and others can clearly see the progress God is shaping in us.

Bottom line: 

Becoming like Christ is a lifelong process of steady, intentional growth, formed through daily practice—not quick fixes or single moments.

Next steps:    

Commit to one small, repeatable action that forms both my character and my platform at the same time.

God Created Me to Love Me

“Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love.” Ephesians 1:4 (MSG)

Often my problem isn’t that I don't love God enough. My problem is that I don't understand how much he loves me.”

Love is always a response to love. The Bible says, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19 NIV). When you say, “I don't love God,” it's because I don't understand just how much he really loves me.

In fact, God loved me even before he created the earth. The Bible says it like this in the Message paraphrase: “Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love” (Ephesians 1:4).

To understand my life’s purpose and calling, I have to begin with God’s nature. God is love. Love is the essence of his nature.

And the focus of his love is me. I was created to be loved by God.

If I grasp that profound truth and let it sink into my soul, I will find great strength, confidence, and peace. God created the entire universe in a specific way to support the existence of human beings so that he could create you and love you.

The most important thing I can know is that God created me to love me. The most important thing I can do is to know and love him back. Loving God back is my number one purpose in life. Ants and snails do not love, but I was made in God’s image, so I can love.

Most people go their entire lives missing their purpose. They know all kinds of things—stock quotes, sports scores, the latest technology—but they don’t know God. They miss out on discovering the depth of God’s love and all the blessings he has in store for them.

But that doesn’t have to be true for you and I. God’s priority for my life is clear. It’s important to serve, obey, and trust him. But my first purpose is to love him.

In summary:

God’s love for me did not begin with my effort or understanding—it began before creation itself, when God chose me as the focus of His love and created me to be made whole by it (Ephesians 1:4). My struggle to love God is often not a lack of devotion but a lack of understanding how deeply He loves me, because love is always a response to being loved first (1 John 4:19). Since God’s very nature is love, and I was created in His image, my primary purpose is not simply to serve, obey, or achieve, but to know His love and love Him in return. When I grasp this truth—that I was created to be loved by God—it brings clarity to my purpose and fills my life with strength, confidence, and peace, keeping me from missing the most important thing I was made for.

Bottom Line:

I was created to be loved by God—and my primary purpose is to love Him in response.

Next steps:

Slow down and intentionally receive what’s already true—that I am deeply loved—and then act from that place, not for it. Don’t rush to do more. Let love anchor me—then move forward intentionally.

Where to Find Purpose

“It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for . . . part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.” Ephesians 1:11-12 (MSG)

Mark Twain once said the two most important days in your life are the day you’re born and the day you find out why.

God has created everything with a purpose. Every plant has a purpose. Every star has a purpose. Every animal has a purpose. If your heart is beating, God has a purpose for your life. The very fact that you’re alive makes your life meaningful.

If you want to know your purpose, you won’t find it in a self-help book, on television, or in the movies. You also can’t find it within yourself because you didn’t make yourself. God made you.

Only God—the one who created you—can tell you your purpose.

The Message paraphrase says this: “It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for . . . part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone” (Ephesians 1:11-12).

You were made by God; you were made for God. Until you understand that, your life will not make sense.

The Bible says you were made to last forever. One day, your heart will stop. That will be the end of your body, but it won’t be the end of you. God has long-range plans for your life. He wants you to live forever and ever and ever.

You’ll spend more time on the other side of death than on this side. You might get 80 or 100 years of life on this side of death, but on the other side is eternity.

The Bible says you’re not yet ready for heaven. You need to learn some things first. This life is preparation for the next life—because that’s the life that will keep on going forever and ever.

In summary:

Ephesians 1:11–12 reminds me that my true identity and purpose are found in Christ, because God created every person and everything with intention and meaning. Life is not an accident; if I'm alive, God has a purpose for me, and that purpose cannot be discovered through self-help, culture, or looking within myself, but only through the One who made me. I was made by God and for God, and until that truth is understood, life will not fully make sense. Scripture also teaches that my life is eternal in nature—this earthly life is temporary and serves as preparation for the life to come. God has long-range plans beyond this world, using our time here to shape us for eternity.

Bottom line:

My life has meaning and purpose because God created me, and I will only fully understand who I am and why I'm here by living in Christ—this life is preparation for the eternal one to come.

Next Step:

Intentionally seek God for clarity on my purpose by daily aligning my time, decisions, and priorities with Christ—starting with prayerful reflection and obedience in the small things He’s already placed in front of me.

Purpose Beyond Ourselves

“It is God himself who has made us what we are and given us new lives from Christ Jesus; and long ages ago he planned that we should spend these lives in helping others.” Ephesians 2:10 (TLB)

God put me on earth to make a contribution—and he’s calling me to a service far beyond anything I could ever imagine.

I wasn't created just to consume resources—to eat, breathe, and take up space. I was created to add to the world around me, not just to take from it. God wants me to give something back—to help other people. God designed me to make a difference with my life.

The Living Bible paraphrase says, “It is God himself who has made us what we are and given us new lives from Christ Jesus; and long ages ago he planned that we should spend these lives in helping others” (Ephesians 2:10).

Whenever I serve others in any way, I am actually serving God. As Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Do your work willingly, as though you were serving the Lord himself, and not just your earthly master. In fact, the Lord Christ is the one you are really serving, and you know he will reward you” (CEV).

In one of his parables, Jesus said, “The king will answer, ‘Whenever you did it for any of my people, no matter how unimportant they seemed, you did it for me’” (Matthew 25:40 CEV).

And the apostle Paul shared the same message: “Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people” (Ephesians 6:7 NLT).

God said it this way to the prophet Jeremiah in the Old Testament: “Before I made you in your mother’s womb, I chose you. Before you were born, I set you apart for a special work” (Jeremiah 1:5 NCV).

When most people think of this “special work,” they think of pastors, priests, and professional clergy. But God says that he expects every member of his family to minister. In the Bible, the words servant and minister are synonyms; service and ministry are synonyms too. As a Christ follower, I am a minister. And when I'm serving, I'm ministering.

God didn’t just immediately take me to heaven the moment I accepted his grace. He has left me in a fallen world? He leaves me here to fulfill his purposes.

Once I am saved, God wants me to be part of making his goals a reality here on earth. That means God has a ministry for me in his church and a mission for me in the world!

In summary:

God intentionally created and redeemed us through Christ to live lives of purpose, specifically by helping and serving others. We were not made merely to exist or consume, but to contribute and make a meaningful difference in the world. Scripture consistently affirms that when we serve people—no matter how ordinary or unnoticed the task—we are ultimately serving God Himself, and He honors that work. This calling is not limited to pastors or clergy; every Christ follower is a minister, because service and ministry are inseparable. God leaves believers on earth after salvation so they can fulfill His purposes, carrying out a ministry within the church and a mission in the world, living out the good works He planned long ago.

Bottom line:

I was intentionally created and redeemed by God to serve others and fulfill His purposes, and every act of service—no matter how small—is meaningful ministry that honors Him.

Next Steps:

Choose one specific place this week—at church, work, or in your community—where you can consistently serve, and commit to showing up and helping in a tangible way.

God Is Calling You to Bless Others

“I will bless you. . . . and you will be a blessing.” Genesis 12:2 (NIV)

Most Christians want to bless others through their time, talents, gifts and resources. But it’s not just a desire. God commands us to be a blessing to others because we have been blessed.

As I look for ways to bless others, keep in mind the four laws of God’s blessing:

1. My blessings should flow to others.
The Bible teaches that I am blessed not just so that I can feel good or so that I can be happy and comfortable. I am blessed so that I can bless others. God told Abraham in Genesis 12:2, “I will bless you. . . . and you will be a blessing” (NIV). This is the first law of blessing: It must flow outwardly. 

2. When I bless others, God takes care of my needs.
There’s almost nothing that God won’t do for the person who really wants to help other people. In fact, God guarantees that if I will concentrate on blessing others, he’ll take care of my needs.

In Luke 18:29-30, Jesus says, “I assure you that everyone who has given up house or wife or brothers or parents or children, for the sake of the Kingdom of God, will be repaid many times over in this life, and will have eternal life in the world to come” (NLT).

When I focus on helping other people, God assumes responsibility for my problems. And that’s a real blessing—because he’s much better at handling my difficulties than I am. 

3. My blessings to others will come back to me.
The more I bless other people and the more I help others, the more God blesses my life. The Message paraphrase says, “Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing” (Luke 6:38).

I cannot out-give God. When I look for ways to try to bless others, it’s like God is saying, “I’m going to pour blessings out on you. We’ll play a little game here. Let’s see who will win. Let’s see who can give the most. The more you bless others, the more I’m going to bless you in return.”

4. The more God blesses me, the more he expects me to help others.
Jesus said it this way in Luke 12:48: “Much is required from the person to whom much is given; much more is required from the person to whom much more is given” (GNT).

Never be afraid to share God’s blessings. The more generous I am with sharing what God’s given me, the more I'll see God blessing me in return.

In summary:

We are reminded that God blesses His people not for personal comfort but so they can be a blessing to others, establishing a cycle of generosity and trust. Scripture teaches that blessings are meant to flow outward, and when we focus on serving and helping others, God faithfully takes responsibility for our needs. As we give generously—of our time, resources, and love—those blessings return to us in greater measure, proving that we can never out-give God. At the same time, increased blessing brings increased responsibility, as God expects those who have received much to help others more. Living generously is not something to fear but to embrace, because sharing God’s blessings opens the door for even greater impact and continued blessing in our lives.

Bottom Line:

God blesses us so that we will bless others—and when we live generously and responsibly with what He’s given, He faithfully takes care of us and multiplies the impact.

Next Steps:

Intentionally identify one specific way this week to use what God has already blessed me with—mt time, influence, resources, or skills—to bless someone else, and then trust God with the results.

 

What Are You Doing With What You’ve Been Given

“Each one, as a good manager of God’s different gifts, must use for the good of others the special gift he has received from God.” 1 Peter 4:10 (GNT)

Do I know what purpose God created me for? Do I know what my destiny is? Part of understanding my purpose is recognizing the gifts God has given me to use.

These gifts are part of the cards I've been dealt in life. They include the things I can’t control, like who my parents were, where I was born, and my background. They also include my SHAPE—my spiritual gifts, heart, abilities, personality, and experiences. These are the things that make me uniquely me.

I'm responsible for making the most of these God-given gifts. But I'm not responsible for the gifts God didn’t give me. In other words, if I am not artistically gifted, I am not expected to paint pictures like Rembrandt. If I'm not mechanically minded, God likely won’t call me to bless my elderly neighbor with oil changes.

But God does expect me to use my own gifts for the good of others: “Each one, as a good manager of God’s different gifts, must use for the good of others the special gift he has received from God” (1 Peter 4:10 GNT).

When I get to heaven, God isn’t going to compare me with anyone else, but he will compare me with myself. What did I do with what I was given? What could I have done if I had trusted God a little bit more? Romans 14:12 says, “Each of us will give an account of ourselves to God” (NIV).

The Old Testament tells the story of Esther, a Hebrew woman who became queen and rescued her people. She had three assets that God gave her to fulfill her destiny. She was intelligent, was physically beautiful, and had an engaging personality. Because of these qualities, “Esther won the favor of everyone who saw her. . . . She won [the king’s] favor and approval . . . So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen” (Esther 2:15, 17 NIV).

God gave Esther specific gifts for a purpose. In the same way, God has given me gifts for a purpose. And just like Esther, I have a responsibility to be a good steward of those gifts—not for selfish uses but for the good of others.

God used Esther’s gifts to save the Hebrew people from a potentially murderous king. How might God use my gifts to benefit others?

In summary:

Discovering God’s purpose for my life begins with recognizing and stewarding the unique gifts he has given me—my background, spiritual gifts, heart, abilities, personality, and experiences (our SHAPE). I am not responsible for gifts I don’t have, but I am accountable for how faithfully I use the ones I do have for the good of others. God will not compare me to anyone else; instead, he will ask me what I did with what I was given. Like Esther, whose specific gifts positioned her to fulfill God’s purpose and bless others, each of us has been entrusted with gifts meant to serve beyond ourselves. The true measure of faithfulness is not talent or comparison, but stewardship—using what God has placed in my hands to benefit others and honor him.

Bottom Line:

I am responsible for faithfully using the gifts God has given me—not to compare myself to others, but to serve others and fulfill the purpose he uniquely designed for me.

Next Steps:

Identify one specific gift God has given and intentionally use it this week to serve someone else, trusting that obedience with what I/we have is how God advances our/my purpose.

God Empowers Me to Live My Calling

“There are different spiritual gifts, but the same Spirit gives them. There are different ways of serving, and yet the same Lord is served. There are different types of work to do, but the same God produces every gift in every person.” 1 Corinthians 12:4-6 (GW)

Like most people, I tend to struggle knowing the unique calling God has for my life. But once I understand the gifts he has given me—and the abilities he’s given specifically to me—I can begin pursuing the plans he’s called me to.

The moment I step across the line and put my faith in Christ, God gives me four major gifts:

Forgiveness. Romans 5:15 says, “For the sin of this one man, Adam, brought death to many. But even greater is God’s wonderful grace and his gift of forgiveness to many through this other man, Jesus Christ” (NLT). When I put my faith in Jesus, the first thing he does is wipe out everything I’ve ever done wrong. I am forgiven! There is no condemnation.

Eternal life. God has long-range plans for me. The Bible says in Romans 6:23, “The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (NIV). I'm never going to work my way or earn my way into heaven. The only way I’ll ever get into heaven is by God’s free gift that I accept by faith.

The Holy Spirit. Romans 5:5 says, “God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us” (NIV). How do I know when I'm letting God live through my life? When I embody the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Special abilities. In the Bible, these special abilities are called spiritual gifts. They are different from material or physical gifts. They’re the abilities I need to do the job that God wants me to do. Most people who are believers don’t even know they have spiritual gifts, much less what those gifts are. But if I'm a follower of Jesus, I do have them!

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 12:4-6, “There are different spiritual gifts, but the same Spirit gives them. There are different ways of serving, and yet the same Lord is served. There are different types of work to do, but the same God produces every gift in every person” (GW).

God has a purpose for my life, and my spiritual gifts are the tools he gives me to do what he asks. God will never ask me to do something he doesn’t give me the ability to do!

In summary:

While God gives people different gifts, callings, and ways to serve, they all come from the same God and are part of His unified purpose. Though it’s natural to struggle with understanding one’s unique calling, clarity comes by recognizing and embracing the gifts God provides through faith in Christ: forgiveness that removes all condemnation, eternal life that is received by grace, the Holy Spirit who transforms character from within, and spiritual gifts that equip each believer for God’s specific work. These gifts are not accidental or earned but intentionally given, affirming that God has a purpose for every life and always supplies the abilities needed to fulfill what He calls a person to do

Bottom Line:

God has a specific purpose for my life, and He has already given me—through grace and the Spirit—everything I need to fulfill it; my role is to recognize, trust, and faithfully use those gifts.

Next Step:

Intentionally identify and begin using the gifts God has already given me. Spend focused time in prayer and reflection to clarify my spiritual gifts, seek wise counsel or assessment to confirm them, and then take one concrete action this week to serve or lead in a way that aligns with those gifts—trusting that obedience brings clarity as I move forward.